It’s difficult to find that guy with the right vibe, sense of humour, who’s liked by your friends and family, and, let’s not forget, is a single brotha. But we sisters keep on looking, weeding out the puppies from the dogs, hoping this one is Mr. Right!
Now Mr. Right may, for you, be someone who’s looking to settle down and start a family. He may be someone who has lots of time to spend doing things with you. Or, he may be someone just to party with and have fun. Just a short-term thing, nothing too serious. Well, here is a brief checklist to help you on that journey to find your Mr. Right!
Have you met his friends?
Are his friends single? If they are single, then this guy’s probably not interested in a relationship that is leading to marriage. It’s also safe to say he’s not ready to start a family anytime soon. He probably wants to have a good time partying most nights, while having a flexible relationship that allows him to spend a substantial amount of time with the guys, watching sports, drinking, partying, and just hanging with them.
If his friends are married, this bodes well for you if you want to settle down. It is likely that he is thinking similarly to his friends, so he may be planning to settle down in the near future. He’s been there, done that, and is tired of the party scene and short-term relationships. The fact that his friends are married would also suggest that he has more time for you.
Is persistence a virtue?
We all find it flattering when we are being pursued by an admirer, whether we are looking for a long-term relationship, or a bit of fun. But, whatever we are looking for, sometimes this persistence can prove to be a problem.
If you’re on your second date, looking for a bit of fun, nothing too serious, and this brotha wants you to meet his parents, there’s something very wrong. This is a guy who’s definitely not for you.
If you’re looking for a stable relationship leading to marriage, and you’ve been dating this guy for over six months, still don’t know where he lives, and have never even met a family member or close friend, beware. This relationship may not be going anywhere.
101 questions or none?
Whether he is just to look good on your arm for now, or he’s the man you want to be the father of your children, questions are a good thing. Questions suggest he is interested in you! Not only does he want to get to know you better, but he may actually like the fact that you’re beautiful, intelligent, and can hold a conversation.
Respect!
Does this brotha speak in a polite manner to all who cross his path? Or does he go ballistic when the waiter forgets he didn’t want ice in his drink, or that he has to join a line in order to pay for his goods in the supermarket?
If he is polite and mild mannered you’re on to something good. If he goes crazy over minor things that are part of everyday life, this does not bode well for you. This guy is likely to treat you in the same manner in the near future. Move on now!
I want to be a Fireman when I grow up!
Your gentleman is over 25 years old and has had over three jobs in the last year. He’s cool to party with, but don’t be looking for anything long-term, as he still doesn’t know if he wants to be a fireman or a scientist.
If your guy is over 30 years old and changes his job every year to something totally unrelated, he’s ‘quick fling’ material only. It’s very unlikely he’ll be able to confirm drinks at the Terra Nova hotel pool bar on Friday at 7:00 p.m., let alone anything like marriage or a family.
To answer or not to answer?
His cell phone never stops ringing…and he always answers it. Day or night, at the movies, over dinner, it doesn’t matter. He never turns it off.
Is he a doctor or locksmith on call? If the answer is no, it’s time to say bye-bye to this brotha. You will never be #1 in his life. You’ll always be much lower down in the order. If you’re lucky, you’ll make the top 10.
Instinct!
If every bone in your body is saying something isn’t right with this guy, you’re probably right. Listen to your intuition, and follow that vibe.
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By Sharon Davis. Stylist/Designer/Entrepreneur.
2Sisters Boutique & Beauty Salon.
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